Nov 30, 2014

How We Met


Two years ago I had just gotten out of a long term relationship. I wanted to make sure I didn’t go crawling back to him so I decided to join an online dating site. I wanted to show myself that there were other great guys out there. I wasn’t expecting to meet the love of my life. All I wanted was to go on a couple of dates to keep myself distracted. I ended up on OKCupid.com.

When I signed up I had to take a test and from the results of that test the website matched me up with other guys. Eloquent_Vessel and I had the highest match. I went on his profile and I was so impressed. I could tell he was a writer from his profile and I new I had to talk to him. I sent him a message on November 20, 2012. This was all on the same day I signed up, by the way.
 
The message read: 

Number 1. I read your entire profile. Number 2. I liked what I read. I was mostly impressed by your grammar and your choice of words. I love words. As a writer and a songwriter, I tend to use words a lot to express myself.

By the way, my name is Heather.

He responded:

Well hello Heather, my name’s Mud.

Sooo. I’d like to get to know a little bit about you and I find the best way to do that is the Question Game…And it is much less a game and more of a chance for me to put on my special announcer voice and make board game style rules. Are you ready? Sweet.

Rules:
1) Each party must ask the other party three questions per round. 2) Each question must be unique to the conversation, I.E. no repeated questions. 3) One party may ask the other to answer a question that they were asked, however it does not count toward their total questions for the round.

Got it? Awesome, I knew you would, you seem like a smart cookie.

So here they come.

1) What is your favorite music artist or band?

2) What genre are you intending on writing in?

3) Prose or Poetry mostly?

Well Heather, I pray you have a good evening and pleasant night. Sweet dreams pleasant sleep.

The rest, as they say, is history. We went back and forth asking each other questions and getting to know one another. On November 24th he brought up the idea of an “ID check", something he wants to copywrite one day. He wanted to make sure I wasn’t a three hundred pound man named Pete who lived in Arkansas and used Heather's photos to lure others in. By they way, he still calls me Pete. We had to tell each other what to do and we had to send each other a photo doing just that to prove we really were who we said we were. He told me to wear a kitchen utensil through my hair. I had to wear either a blanket or towel as a cape. I had to salute and hold a green beverage in my hand. (I had to send him two photos because I couldn't salute, hold a green beverage and take a selfie.) I told him he had to wear a blue shirt. He had to hold his favorite Stephen King book in his right hand. And he had to wrap his head in a towel like a woman who just came out of the shower. We sent each other our ID checks on November 26th.




After that he believed I was really Heather and he asked me out. We decided to meet at Ryan Bros Coffee and then walk over to Harveston Lake. 



This wasn’t just any date for me. I could tell that this guy was different. I had had some great boyfriends in the past. They all treated me very well and I’m still on good terms with most of them. But I never had that feeling with any of them. My mom always says that her heart stopped when she first saw my dad and her life began when she met him. I had never felt that way. Everyone would tell me I just hadn’t met the right guy yet. 

I went shopping the night before and I found this sweater and I wore it on our first date. This photo was taken the night before. I am definitely a picture person. I like to document everything. But for some reason I did not take one picture the night of our first date. I regret that now.


I worked the day of our first date, Friday, November 30th. I was carpooling with my boss at the time and I am so happy that I had someone in the car with me on the way home. I was a nervous wreck and it was pouring rain. Thankfully she was driving. There were probably three different accidents and we ended up taking back roads. I kept texting Stephen to let him know that I wasn’t standing him up. I even took a screen shot of the traffic app to show him what I was sitting in. I felt so bad because I was nearly an hour late. When my boss dropped me off at my car I called Stephen to let him know I was back in Temecula and I’d be there shortly. He told me he was sitting in his car outside the coffee shop. That was the first time I had ever heard his voice.

I headed over there and when I got there I texted him to let him know I was there. I walked into the coffee shop and looked around. I didn’t see him so I sat down at the table closest to the door. Just then he walked in. My heart stopped. He hugged me before saying anything and I knew in that very moment that he was the one. He smelled so good and I felt so safe in his arms. I just knew. Everything my mom had ever told me was true. All those talks my dad gave me about never settling, he was right all along. We probably could have ended the date right there and I would have been happy. He was so incredibly gorgeous. He was wearing black slacks, a black dress shirt and a black vest. He was holding a grey tweed pea coat. I was very impressed with the fact that he dressed up for me. 

We went to the counter and ordered our drinks. I can’t remember what I ordered. Probably a Misto or an Americano. He ordered some sort of green tea. Once we had our drinks we started walking towards Harveston Lake. It was about a mile away. We ended up walking even farther than the lake. We kept going until we found a playground and some covered tables and benches. It was cold and it was raining on and off so we figured that was the best spot to land.

I wanted to swing on the swings. He approached the swing first and dried it off with his jacket before letting me sit on it. I thought to myself, “Where did this guy come from?!” I think he pushed me for a little while. And then he ended up sitting on the swing next to me and we talked for a little while. Then he brought up the fact that he brought Uno so he asked if I wanted to play. We sat down at one of the benches facing each other. We put the cards in between us. We played for a little while. He said whoever won would be able to decide whether or not the date would end with a kiss. I was ahead and he didn't like that very much. He made a comment about how he never lost. I said, "Okay, last game and whoever wins this one wins it all." I didn't tell him that night but I let him win. I did not want to be the one who decided whether or not the date ended with a kiss. I wanted that to be up to him so I let him win.

We walked back to our cars after the game was over. It was freezing and all I had on was my scarf. Stephen put his jacket on me. He insisted he was okay without it. As we walked, he held my hand. When we got back to the coffee shop, everything was closed. It was pretty late but we weren't ready to call it a night just yet. Stephen suggested we could sit in his car and watch Netflix on his phone but we ended up just talking for a while. 

It was getting pretty late and we both agreed we should say goodnight. Stephen insists that I kissed him first. I may have leaned in but I know for a fact that he kissed me first. And when he kissed me I thought to myself, "This is what it's supposed to feel like." It was nothing short of magic. He walked me to my car and kissed me again. I asked him, "When can I see you again?" He wanted to make arrangements for the next day (or the same day because it was passed midnight) but I had a friend's birthday party. So we planned on seeing each other Sunday, December 2nd. When I drove home I sent my friend these texts. 


Stephen and I meeting when we met and how we met was definitely all in God’s plan. We actually graduated from the same university. We walked the same path several times but we had never met. Obviously the timing wasn’t right back then. Prior to breaking things off with my previous boyfriend I prayed about it several times. I knew that I would be settling if I stayed with him but I was also terrified to let go of something I was comfortable with. I asked God for the strength to move on and I gave my love life completely to Him. They say love comes when you least expect it and that was exactly what happened in my case. I will be eternally grateful to God for bringing this amazing man into my life. I will never be able to thank Him enough. 


The last two years have been the best of my life. I love you so much and I can’t wait to be your wife. Thank you for being so good to me. Happy Anniversary!

♥Pete

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Nov 29, 2014

Critic

This time of year scares the living daylights out of me. There are so many goodies out there and it seems like every gathering is built around dinners and desserts. This time of year reminds me that I really have no self control. I’ve gotten a lot better but I still have a major crush on food.

I don’t know if it’s the season or because I was running longer distances but I have been feeling really fluffy and puffy lately. When the holidays roll around I feel like something switches in my brain and it says, “It’s okay to eat more! Go ahead, eat those cookies.” It’s a constant battle between the angel and the devil on my shoulders. Obviously, the devil is the one telling me to go ahead and indulge ALL THE TIME. And then the angel makes me feel guilty for what I’ve eaten and tells me, “Great, now you’re fat. Good job!” Back and forth. Back and forth. On a daily basis. And then when I run longer distances, I use it as an excuse to carb load. You would think I’d lose weight when I run more but the complete opposite happens for me. (I feel slimmer and stronger when I lift more.)

I’ve been complaining to my fiancé about how puffy I’ve been feeling lately. Of course, he tells me I’m beautiful and I haven’t gained any weight. But he has to say that, right? Because I had doubts about his compliments I took some photos of myself first thing in the morning. I thought the photos would prove my point. Why did I feel the need to prove that I had gained weight? So I'd shape up and resist all the seasonal goodies. 




After looking through the photos of myself I thought I didn’t look that bad. I was talking to my accountability buddy. I told her that I need to focus. We’re both engaged so she totally understands where I’m coming from. She said every time she wants to eat something she shouldn’t she tells herself out loud that she will NOT regret her weddings pictures. I love that! And I’m totally stealing that from her. This time next year I’ll be married and I’ll hopefully be in the best shape of my life. But I need to learn to resist all the carbs and cookies. (I should specify – bad carbs. I will definitely keep healthy carbs in my diet.)
 
I sent my accountability buddy the two photos below of myself. I came across them recently and I think I look really great! These photos were taken nearly two years ago, right after I met my fiancé. I was about ten pounds lighter then. My accountability buddy asked me what size jeans I was wearing back then. This made me laugh because I realized I am wearing the exact same jeans I was back then. I honestly don't think I've bought new jeans since I met my fiancé. In fact, I still wear the grey t-shirt I am wearing in the photos below and I still wear the same capris to work out in. Obviously those ten pounds didn’t do much to my body because I’m still wearing all the same clothes as back then.



I guess what I came to realize, like I have so many times before, is that we are our own worst critics. I remember when I first lost weight I would always grab larger sizes at the stores. I’d go into the dressing room and realize I needed a smaller one. Obviously we don’t see ourselves the way others do. I really need to stop being so hard on myself. We all do.


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Nov 28, 2014

Thanksgiving

Happy Black Friday! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! I will not be doing any shopping today. I’m staying home and packing up our apartment. Moving day is approaching quickly and I want to be thoroughly prepared. Most of our stuff will be going into storage so I’m having to sort and organize. Before I get to work I wanted to reminisce a little about Thanksgiving.

My fiancé and I went to his parents’ house on Wednesday night. We spent the night there and as soon as I woke up yesterday morning I drove to my parents’ house. I wanted to have breakfast and spend a little time with my family. I left my fiancé with his mom because he loves to cook and he wanted to help her with the big dinner.

My dad made Hungarian pancakes and I cooked up some turkey bacon. We usually have Hungarian pancakes for breakfast and a Mexican turkey for dinner on Thanksgiving. The food of our two cultures. Since I was going to be with my future in-laws and my brother and sister-in-law are vegetarians my parents decided it wasn’t worth it to make a turkey this year.


We had a very nice breakfast and we sat around the table talking and laughing while the parade was on in the background. My brother was pretty much snuggled up in his blanket all morning. At one point he fell asleep on the couch and I took it as the perfect opportunity to snap a picture. I put my brother’s glasses on my dog and he lifted his head and looked at me like, “What the heck is going on, sissy?” I told him, “Put your head down babies.” And he did just that.


There aren’t many things I will share about our wedding. I’m all about being secretive. I like to think it’s more fun that way. But I will share that I am planning on carrying a bouquet of brooches when I walk down the aisle. I first saw a bouquet of brooches years ago and I fell in love with the idea then. My cousin sent a couple to me through my mom so my mom and I went through them yesterday. And then my mom pulled out boxes of my grandmother’s jewelry and we went through that too. So I guess we have officially started my brooch collection for my bouquet. My sister-in-law was with us and she was pulling up ideas on Pinterest. I am very much aware of the fact that I am engaged and my fiancé and I will get married next year. But when we actually talk about ideas and turn those ideas into actual things, it all becomes so real.


We usually stay in our jammies all day on Thanksgiving (and usually Christmas too). I wish I could have stayed in my jammies but I have another family now and I have to share my time between them. My mom wanted a couple pictures with me before I left. Isn’t she beautiful? Always rocking her animal print.



I forgot to mention, I was pleasantly surprised to see that my parents’ house is all decked out for Christmas already. The lights are hung outside. There is a big snowman in the front entry way. There are little snowmen along the walkway. The tree is up and decorated. It all looks amazing like it does every year.


By the way, it was NINETY yesterday. We’re pretty used to it here in Southern California. But I envy all of ya’ll who get a real winter.


I made it back to my future in-law’s home and we had a really good and really filling dinner. I’m used to a Mexican turkey with rice and beans but I really enjoyed the turkey with mashed potatoes and gravy that my future mother-in-law made. I wasn’t brave enough to try the stuffing or the yams but I didn’t feel like I was missing anything at all. I was so incredibly full after my first serving. I honestly can not remember ever being that full. After a little while I had some coffee and a slice of homemade lemon pie that a friend of the family made. It was delicious! And I’ve become quite fond of anything lemon. Maybe because my new last name will be Meyer.


This was our last and only Thanksgiving as an engaged couple. This time next year we will be married!!! Hard to believe but also very exciting! Maybe just maybe we will be in our new home and we can host Thanksgiving there for our two families. That would be incredible.


Update on my search for the perfect foundation for my skin. You know how I said I really liked the Urban Decay Naked? Well, I would like to change my mind on that. When I went to wash my face at the end of the day on Tuesday night, I noticed that three pimples had formed. I’m thinking that that foundation ended up clogging my pores, which is very unfortunate. Wednesday and yesterday I tried out Bare Minerals Blemish Remedy. This was one that my cousin had suggested. I’ve heard great things about Bare Minerals but I had never thought to even consider it. Also, this is a powder foundation. I think the last time I wore a powder foundation was while I was in high school. I have to say that I was pleasantly surprised. I love this foundation! I have one more to try but I’m pretty sure this will be the one I invest in.


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Nov 25, 2014

Random Ramblings

Saturday night my fiancé and I drove to the other side of town to hit up some stores that we don’t get to very often. We started at BevMo, probably one of my fiancé’s favorite stores. He’s like a kid in a candy store in there, which is funny because he rarely drinks alcohol. We bought a couple things, including a Christmas present so it was a successful trip. We had dinner at Souplantation. I LOVE Souplantation but it’s so hard to eat there when you are avoiding dairy. The ranch dressing was taunting me and the cheese bread was calling my name. I stayed strong though and I avoided all the dairy. 


We ended our evening at Sprouts. We grabbed a couple things and I was pleasantly surprised to find Honeycrisp apples for 98 cents a pound! Honeycrisp apples are my favorite but they are usually close to 4 dollars a pound so I avoid them. This time I stocked up.


We went out and did more shopping on Sunday. This time our main focus was Christmas. We made a list of who we needed to buy gifts for before hand and we were on a mission. We were able to cross a couple people off our list and we got some ideas for other gifts. My fiancé likes to search for the item we are staring at as we are in front of it. Amazon had a few items at a much lower price so he ended up ordering those items online. 

 

This was in Macy’s. One side is a full stock of bathing suits and the other side is Christmas décor. I saw this and I told my fiancé, “Only in the desert." For those of you who don't live in California, it is still warm enough here to go swimming. We're supposed to be in the 80's for the rest of the week.


I found this tissue paper at World Market. I wish I knew someone who loved locks and keys as much as I do. I wanted to buy it but then I would want to buy and give gifts to myself.
 

The kind folks at Ocean Spray sent me their new line of water to try. The new flavors are Cranberry Raspberry, Cranberry Mango Passionfruit, Cranberry Blood Orange and Cranberry Pomegranate. I’m pretty sure my favorite flavor is Cranberry Mango Passionfruit but they are all very good. Not too sweet and very refreshing. The ingredients are: Purified Water, Cranberry Extract, Agave Nectar, Natural Flavors, Sea Salt, Monk Fruit Extract and Stevia Extract. There are only 10 calories, 3 grams of carbs and 2 grams of sugar per bottle.

 

I’m on the search for a new foundation. I’ve been using Clinique Acne Solutions for a few years now. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a great foundation. But I’ve heard that we need to switch it up every now and then because our skin gets used to it and I’m starting to feel like it’s not enough coverage for me. I reached out to my cousin, who knows so much more about makeup then I do, and she gave me a couple great suggestions. She also told me to go to Sephora or Ulta to get some samples before I purchase.



I went to Sephora while we were at the mall and I got samples for three different foundations. The one I’m wearing today is the Urban Decay Naked. So far I like it more than the Clinique Acne Solutions. But then again it may just be because it’s a new foundation. I’m much better in the hair department and I know when I try a new shampoo or conditioner my hair always feels amazing the first couple of days just because it’s new. I will continue to use it and I will compare it to the other two samples I got over the next couple of days. I’ll definitely let you know which one I like the best. 


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